The struggle is real.

I am personally going through the struggle of a lifetime, the struggle of all struggles, the struggle of a million heartaches.

It is the plague of the human race.  Every single one of us is going through it in one way or another, in some shape or form. To each of us our struggles seem large and looming and sometimes unconquerable.  It does not matter what they are.  Why do we try to hide them? Why do we try to walk around acting like we are fine? We are not fine. No one is fine.

We can’t we be authentic? We do we have to be so perfect? That in and of itself is wrong, so very wrong. To pretend we are someone we are not.  What is to gain by acting like we have it all together? Do people like us more, or do they like us less? Does it matter what ANYONE thinks? When we stand before God at the end of our life is he going to ask us, “well, how many people like you? Were you popular? Sorry, only those with a high approval rating get into heaven.”

So show weakness shows humanity and authenticity and humility.  I am baring my soul before thousands because I have lost that shield of self-consciousness.  When my son was ripped away from me so were so many other things.

Imagine a world where we are all authentic.  We all shared our struggles and felt united in them.  Imagine…just imagine…if we. did. not. care. what. others. thought.


Share a struggle with someone today.  Open yourself up. Allow yourself to be human, imperfect, yet a beloved child of God. Allow someone else in and let them see your weakness.  In my “previous life” i felt like I was the only one who didn’t have it all together.  The only one struggling, and struggling hard.

GOD LOVES YOU KNOW MATTER WHAT. Repeat that to yourself ten times.  A million times.  As many times as it takes.

I have been reading Psalm 25, suggested to me by another incredible friend.

The psalms are beautiful. Breathtaking.

Psalm 25:16-21

Turn to me and be gracious to me,

for I am lonely and afflicted.

Relieve the troubles of my my heart

and free me from anguish.

Look on my affliction and my distress

and take away all my sins.

See how numerous are my enemies and how fiercely they hate me!

Guard my life and rescue me;

do not let me be put to shame, for I take refuge in you.

My integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord, is in you.


7 thoughts on “struggle

  1. WOW Dear Melissa from Julie in Troy.
    I so agree and your message is so powerful.
    Yesterday I led our Bible study, book discussion and our DVD/book is Soul Keeping written by
    John Ortberg. The segments are only 20 minutes and there are six.
    I would be honored to send you a DVD if and when you might
    want to take a look.
    If you would like this let me know, if not no problem


  2. And the next step is deciding who to “trust” with your struggles. It’s a very vulnerable place to be. Real, yes. But not easy. Melissa, thank you for being you. For bearing your soul.


  3. Thank you for not hugging your sorrow to you . By sharing we know more how to pray for you . Thank you also for using God’s gift to you : Your wonderful way with words .


  4. Live in the moment right now. Be who you really are because you can. Grieve in your own way. It is still such a fresh and opened wound. Let your son’s LOVE surround you daily. Let others embrace you and hold you up. Cry, laugh and remember. Maybe go to a support group of others who have endured this kind of hurt for their support.


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